Thank you Felisha and all the woman at the Halle center for giving my son the chance to play flag football. My son had an amazing day. At first he was intimidated, he looked at me and said ” I change my mind, I don’t want to play.” The coach took him under his wing and after a some time he was comfortable and doing well. I realize 10 is such an awkward age. He did well. What a wonderful day! After practice we went over to the water park, the park had a salsa tasting event and we walked around sampling chips and salsa. They even had a big air jump for the kids to go in. I looked over and my son was crying. I asked what was going on and he just said nothing. I did not want to press him, I thought it best to let him have his emotion. He never shows alot of emotion, he was told by our abuser that crying was wrong and that he was a sissy if he cried. It was an exciting day. Crying is good for the soul.
Kay
Kay, a single mom with four children, is a survivor who hopes to help other women by sharing her story through this blog.Kay's Story
A moment to share
Kay March 28, 2011The other day I was at the local coffee shop talking with a friend. She asked how my son was doing. I told her last night he could not sleep because he couldn’t figure out what he was feeling. We went through a list of feelings and he feel asleep. As I shared this with her she said, maybe he was feeling peace, perhaps not having crises can feel different and the mind gets use to looking for what is wrong. That seemed to make sense, peace of mind can feel uneasy at first. She told me she could see a difference in my life, compared to last year when we were in crises. It meant alot to hear that she could see progress. She could see happiness in my life. I hope to bring awarness about what crises really means. I remember I would lose my train of thought easy. It was difficult to fill out paper work, just writing was hard. Memories would flood in all at once. If someone took the time to listen, I would try to tell them everything at once. Those who did not judge me and listened really helped save my life.
Today we did something interesting
Kay March 28, 2011Today at counseling we did something very interesting. First I have to say, going to counseling is really helping my son and I build a healthy relationship. It has been tough, my son has so many walls up, he had to live in denial for so long, living with his father. I understand what he is going through. because I lived in denial about his father also. The mind finds a way to survive. Someday’s are so hard,I will not give up. We will have a good life. Today we did a time line starting with the day my son was born. As I listened to him share about his memories, I am so gratefull I am clean and sober. I pray never to run from my reality. It was good for him, to be heard and to share memories he has about his life. I looked at what he has been through in his short life. I went home and prayed for the guidance and the strength, not to fall into guilt, to turn our pain into strength.
I have to say we have made progress. There is hope for us.
A Tragedy in our own front yard
Kay March 19, 2011A tragedy accrued in front of our local coffee shop. A man was run down by his friend after leaving the Uncle monkey, a bar in the same plaza as many other business’s. They began fighting outside the bar at around 2 am. I have talked to many people. Most cant believe it. This was not just a isolated incident. The owner of Spacolis pizza was threatened one night as he was closing the pizza shop, the business truck that was parked in front of the Pizza shop has been smashed in on the side. The Manager of the Coffee shop had to call the police because a man was beaten so bad and sitting in the alley. I asked one of the police officer who was cleaning up the homicide if the bar would remain open? He said that is up to Arizona Tobacco and Firearms. I hope they are able to get all the police reports that have been made, because there is alot of them. Everyone has the right to drink if they choose so. However, our community has the right to be protected from the violent crowd that is gathering at this small bar at the end of our block. What will it take to keep the public around them safe?
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